Often known and recognised by customary law as the official traditional wedding ceremony, umabo (ooh-mah-boh) is the official welcoming of Koti into her bridegroom’s home. This often takes place after the white wedding but can be done as a standalone, post lobola and membeso.

In its simplest form, Koti is adorned in traditional gear and proceeds to give gifts to her new family, as per list received from the bridegroom - which usually includes blankets, pinafores, cookware, groceries, furniture etc. The recipients receive their blankets/gifts and celebrate the new bride with dancing and singing, all in the name of two families becoming one.