Umembeso (ooh-meh-mbheh-soh) involves the bridegroom gifting Koti’s family, specifically her mother, as a "thank you" for raising his fiancée well. He receives a list of gifts to buy a few family members, including the late, such as blankets, mats, pinafores, doeks, livestock etc. There is much celebration in the form of song and dance during this ceremony as two families become one. A goat and food are prepared by Koti’s family as a way of welcoming the groom’s family to their home and, in some instances, small gifts will also be given to the groom’s family.