Following lobola and deemed reciprocation by the bride, Umbondo (oohm-bo-ndor) is when Koti gives the visiting party, tasked with asking for her hand, gifts in the form of a basket of goodies and groceries such as maize, rice, cooking oil, etc. or she takes them herself to her in-laws. She is accompanied by girls and one of them will stay behind as her maid. The maid’s role is to help Koti and run errands for her, because there are places that she cannot access in the homestead prior to official marriage. Umbondo can and is often combined with umabo instead of being a standalone event.

Ingqibamasondo is a part of umbondo. This is a ‘public announcement’ by the bride that she will be married soon, a "thank you" to the bridegroom’s family and so a transitionary custom. This can only happen when lobola is fully paid up. It involves Koti being taken to the kraal where a goat is slaughtered to symbolise and allow Koti to become a member of the house, having permission to act as a child of the house. Koti takes with her goodies such as a tray and tea set for the chief negotiator and his wife as well as a basket for her mother-in-law.